In my young adult years, I had a hard time being seen for who I was.

I was always identified by where I grew up, whose sister I was or who I hung out with. Although I loved those aspects of myself, I was more.

As years went on, I had to make choices for my happiness. Choices often opposite of what I thought was expected of me. That meant becoming vulnerable to change and criticism.

That shift came with a yearning to experience more of what life had to offer. I began to look outside the walls put in place by others and myself to live a life God wanted me to live.

I began to capture these experiences in my writing. This became a way for me to purge, process and heal.

This blog is that journey and it continues. A journey full of love, tears, pride and lots of laughs.

Thanks for joining me.

Amy Graham Amy Graham

Ford Mustang…And Technology

Although my dream car was hot with this cool design, comfortable seating, and powerful engine, I wondered if they could have engineered a model with less technology. Would someone want and purchase a Ford Mustang with less technology?

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Good Housekeeping Cookbook Brings Unexpected delight

This 1963 cookbook includes useful information like a glossary of cooking terms, meal planning for hosting a dinner party, and a guide for storing and cooking different cuts of meat. But it is a reminder of a certain type of woman heralded in the 1960’s. For example, in a section titled, “Family Weight Watching,” a suggestion to mothers with teenage daughters reads:

remind them they ‘re preparing for marriage and motherhood. A girl who enjoys being a girl, who looks like a girl…stands the best chance of having a whirl.”

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The Soup

Okra is one of the main staples of the diet of South Carolinians. One of the many foods America inherited from the enslaved West Africans on the Middle Passage, okra is a thickener in many soups and stews, like gumbo. Okra is rich in vitamins C and K, fiber, protein, and antioxidants.

Okra can be prepared many ways including grilled, deep fried and pickled. I prefer to eat it sliced, tossed in olive oil with seasoning and cooked in my air fryer.

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The Kings Behind an Early American Cocktail

As I researched to learn more about the Mint Julep, the internet took me far away from the Kentucky Derby and recipes. It took me to the bartenders behind the roots of this cocktail. The two names that kept surfacing were Cato Alexander and Tom Bullock. Both were well-known bartenders of their day with connections to the beginnings of the Mint Julep. The most intriguing fact for me was they were both black.

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Exploring “the Fannie Farmer Cookbook”

In my last blog post, I wrote about my vintage cookbooks and my desire to explore recipes, prepare at least one from each book, and share my experience with you.

I started with The Fannie Farmer Cookbook. Why? Because of all the cookbooks, this is the most fragile so I thought I would use it and get it out of the way. LOL

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Cookbooks Carry History Lessons

What I love about cookbooks is they tell a story. Reading the preface, the recipes and seeing pictures in these books, you are transported to the culture, setting and society of the times in which they were written.

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Move That Body!

When I moved from Ohio, I interrupted my weekly exercise routine of three days of Zumba with one day of strength training. I stopped so that I could create a plan of action to not lose all I had gained over the years.

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When A Tool Becomes A Distraction

Once I pick up the phone to use tools to help me write, I suddenly find myself looking at reels on Instagram to send the funny ones to the appropriate friend who appreciates good humor. In my quest to make a friend laugh, I have lost 30 minutes of writing time.

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Cancer sucks

This day was my first experience with a cancer treatment appointment. Testing. Waiting. Testing. Hungry. Thirsty. Irritation. Waiting. Experiences with cancer treatment vary from person to person. Today, I learned a lot!.

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Does God Test us or remind us of our foundation of faith?

I often hear people talk about God “Testing” them. For me, I see God as a place of refuge when all seems to be crumbling around me. I call on him for help and guidance. Without it, moving on my own terms and wisdom may cause more harm to my situation.

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Writing Void of Inspiration

I saw an Instagram reel of Octavia Butler speaking on the topic of writing. The late science fiction author was sharing in an interview, her view on inspired writing. She said, "You will not always be inspired, but write anyway because keeping the habit of writing will bring inspiration."

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The Legacy of Quilting

As each woman held up her hand-sewn quilt and shared their stories, I saw the gleam in their eye and pride in each piece of art and history. Listening to these stories, I imagined women in the community sewing quilts together at a table or outside in their yards – as was the tradition.

A quilt has become a piece of history, handed down from generation to generation, yet the craft of quilting has faded.

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